Can counselling help?

Can counselling help?

Many people may find talking to friends and relatives very helpful when they are experiencing certain problems in their life. Sometimes, however, it may be that the response from these people , though well intentioned, is felt to be intrusive, judgmental, biased or with a hidden agenda. They may also advise possible changes which are hard to adopt or manage.

Seeking a counsellor can be a hard step for some. A trained and experienced counsellor offers an opportunity to fully express and explore thoughts and feelings, both of the past, the present and possibilities for the future. It involves the building of a solid and reliable therapeutic relationship where, in a safe, confidential and non-judgmental environment, the client can begin to talk about the issues that are affecting them.

In terms of what happens in a counselling session, I would work with the individual on a short or long term basis, according to their own needs, to respectfully but clearly explore their issues. This would involve areas such as:

  • Making sense of difficult or traumatic past experiences
  • Looking at past relationships to see how certain patterns of interaction have been established and how one’s hopes, fears, expectations and habits have led one to the current situation.
  • Clarify your feelings about certain issues, without fear of judgement or moral intervention
  • Explore different strategies to address your difficulties and what genuine, realistic choices you may have available
  • Look at your existing coping strategies, and query their current purpose and effectiveness. Develop coping strategies for particularly stressful situations or relationships

The work is such that the co-operation between the counsellor/therapist and client together helps the individual to move forward to a place which is more comfortable, complete and hopeful.